Mommy Monday: Toddler expectations

LYNCHBURG, Va. (WSET) - All parents have been there. Your toddler is in full meltdown mode and you can't seem to reason your way out of the tantrum.

Maybe you need to reset your expectations.

According the early childhood resource group Zero to Three recently did a national survey of parents.

It found most overestimate their toddler's ability for self-control.

But here's the truth according to – self-control and emotional control develop between 3 1/2 and 4 years.

Sharing develops between 3 to 4 years.

St. John's Day School director Christie Hooper tries to help parents struggling with that at her preschool.

β€œIt's really a time when they are learning and trying to figure out critical thinking, problem solving and that type of thing. We really have to be the ones to help them and guide them,” Hooper said.

Hooper said part of the guidance is giving your child the chance to make good choices. For example, you can share the toy or we won't play with it anymore. Hooper explained 9 times out of 10 your child wants ownership of the decision -- letting them choose can help defuse a situation.

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